friends and family


Guilt and Not Being There in Times of Need

It is almost inevitable that during your time abroad, occasions will arise, that will make you really feel the distance from home. This may be something wonderful that you miss such as a wedding, special birthday celebration, or birth or something much worse, such as illness or death…in the less good times, when we cannot be there, it is more likely that we become overwhelmed with emotion and guilt.


Networking: making friends in a new country

Finally, our child’s school – in my experience, the least common place to find friendships, but the most widely touted as a good place to form connections. Now if you aren’t a parent, this isn’t an option but if you are, most people will think that this is a good place to start. I find the school gates the least friendly place but it’s not impossible to find friends there.

beach with friends

Why Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday

Thanksgiving, which is held the fourth Thursday of each November, is my favorite holiday; the one I missed most while I was living abroad in the United Kingdom. I describe Thanksgiving (to my non-American friends) as Christmas, without the presents.  Growing up, my mom always hosted Thanksgiving. She would spend all morning cooking and several days before doing all the prep work. Grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins arrived around noon, and the chaos began. There were usually 15 of us crowded around a couple of tables, stuffing our faces until we were too full to move. As everyone in my […]


Playdates: Are they really for the kids or the parents?

When it came to being social, we “dropped by” to see if someone wanted to play. It was always a bit impromptu and go-with-the-flow. I can’t imagine doing that in Silicon Valley. People would think I was nuts. Or more likely, people wouldn’t be home. If they were home, they would likely be getting ready to go somewhere and would ask to be sent a reminder email to plan a play date.

Playdate in the grass